First impressions

This month our BiblioBabes reading group discussed “What Queen Esther Knew,” by Connie Glaser and Barbara Smalley. The story of Queen Esther – another violent and intriguing biblical tale -- used to share leadership lessons. The key points for me:

• Character, convictions, courage, and responsibility are the foundation for becoming a strong leader
• First impressions are critical – dress the part all the time
• Mentors are required – search them out and find people to help
• Play to your strengths
• Celebrate when you do something well

First impressions are what continue to come up for me this weekend. We spend so much time worrying about what we look like, what we are wearing, who is looking at us, what people are saying about us... that I am amazed that we are still reading entire chapters of books dedicated to how we dress and present ourselves. 

At my "other" book club Friday night, we spent a LOT of time discussing our looks and talking about how poorly a group of women partners presented themselves at big, influential event. Apparently, they all looked frumpy or slutty. And these were women in high powered positions who made a lot of money. Why are they not getting support to get themselves cleaned up? 

Meanwhile, I spent some time looking at the before and after airbrushing pictures of models/celebrities we see everyday. Shocking. Everyone should be looking at these pictures - and if you have daughters, make sure they are seeing what people really look like. Jezebel.com. I struggle with the messages we are getting and how this influences how we present ourselves.

I know it is all about confidence and presence. But seriously - it is also about being pretty and youthful. If you aren't attractive, you better have a GREAT personality and be double smart if you expect to keep up. I'm getting more and more discouraged.