Do women take it too personally?

The last few weeks have been an emotional roller coaster. Moments of wild anticipation balanced by moments of utter dejection.

• My client doesn't call me; I think I must have done something wrong.
• I have a good meeting but then don't hear anything back; I am certain I must have said something disastrous.
• Everything is moving along brilliantly in a sales pursuit and then it goes silent; I agonize about everything I said and did that could have messed it up.

I have a tendency to assume that when things go wrong it must be something I did. I relive what happened and consider all sides of the situations... again and again... Is this a gender issue? If so, how much energy do we waste worrying about  and rehashing what is out of our control?

I want to continue learning and improving. But I wonder if we take it too far and we try to learn from experiences that are not learning grounds.

When it might be better to let it go and let things progress without the emotional energy tied to them.

I'm trying to relax and let things happen as they are supposed to happen. Everything always works out.